{"id":49199,"date":"2025-08-10T14:07:54","date_gmt":"2025-08-10T10:07:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/?p=49199"},"modified":"2025-08-10T14:11:25","modified_gmt":"2025-08-10T10:11:25","slug":"sevgini-nec%c9%99-qorumaq-v%c9%99-bagliligi-gucl%c9%99ndirm%c9%99k-olar-xosb%c9%99xt-munasib%c9%99tl%c9%99rin-%c9%99sas-sirri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/?p=49199","title":{"rendered":"Sevgini nec\u0259 qorumaq v\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00fccl\u0259ndirm\u0259k olar? – Xo\u015fb\u0259xt m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin \u0259sas sirri"},"content":{"rendered":"

Amerikal\u0131 psixoloq Mark Travers m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin potensial\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7an bir \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan b\u0259hs edib.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mecra.az<\/strong> <\/a>x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, o, “Forbes” yaz\u0131b.<\/p>\n

“T\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259li c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rl\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259y\u0259n psixoloqlar iddia edir ki, t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015flar\u0131n bir-biri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ed\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259yi \u0259n g\u00fccl\u00fc h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n biri “hekay\u0259 m\u0259kan\u0131” yaratmaqd\u0131r. Bu, h\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015f\u0131n \u00f6z bax\u0131\u015f buca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 v\u0259 hadis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tini k\u0259sm\u0259d\u0259n, d\u00fcz\u0259ltm\u0259d\u0259n, al\u00e7altmadan v\u0259 ya “s\u0259sini bo\u011fma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmadan” s\u0259rb\u0259st \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015f\u0259 bilm\u0259sidir”, dey\u0259 psixoloq bildirib.<\/p>\n

Psixoloqun s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, bu x\u00fcsusil\u0259 vacibdir, \u00e7\u00fcnki m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r ortaq m\u0259nada qurulur v\u0259 bu m\u0259na yaln\u0131z h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259fin s\u0259si e\u015fidildikd\u0259 yaran\u0131r:<\/p>\n

“\u018fg\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015flardan biri s\u0259sinin “bo\u011fuldu\u011funu” hiss ed\u0259rs\u0259 – h\u0259tta qeyri-iradi olsa bel\u0259 – ki\u00e7ik incikl\u0259r y\u0131\u011f\u0131lma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r v\u0259 zamanla davaml\u0131 \u0259s\u0259bl\u0259\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. T\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259siz v\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131q \u00fcnsiyy\u0259tin olmamas\u0131 etimad v\u0259 emosional yax\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 z\u0259ifl\u0259dir”.<\/p>\n

Trevers \u0259lav\u0259 edir ki, aliml\u0259r bel\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259y\u0259 g\u0259libl\u0259r: m\u0259hz keyfiyy\u0259tli dinl\u0259m\u0259 \u0259sas psixoloji ehtiyaclar\u0131 – muxtariyy\u0259t v\u0259 ba\u015fqalar\u0131 il\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259d\u0259 olma\u011f\u0131 – \u00f6d\u0259yir. T\u0259r\u0259fda\u015flar bel\u0259 dinl\u0259nildikl\u0259rini hiss etdikd\u0259, m\u00fcdafi\u0259 reaksiyas\u0131 s\u0259viyy\u0259si azal\u0131r, ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131q g\u00fccl\u0259nir v\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r daha davaml\u0131 olur:<\/p>\n

“Buna g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 “hekay\u0259 m\u0259kan\u0131” yaratmaq m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri h\u0259m m\u00f6hk\u0259ml\u0259ndir\u0259n, h\u0259m d\u0259 u\u00e7ura bil\u0259n \u0259sas \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131d\u0131r”.<\/p>\n

O, bu bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7 vacib s\u0259b\u0259bini a\u00e7\u0131qlay\u0131b:<\/p>\n

1.M\u00fcdafi\u0259 reaksiyas\u0131n\u0131 azald\u0131r v\u0259 etimad\u0131 art\u0131r\u0131r:<\/strong>Psixoloji t\u0259dqiqatlar bunu t\u0259sdiq edir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, “Self and Identity” jurnal\u0131nda d\u0259rc olunan “hekay\u0259 m\u0259kan\u0131” haqq\u0131nda i\u015fd\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rilir ki, \u0259g\u0259r dinl\u0259yici d\u0259st\u0259kl\u0259yici reaksiya ver\u0259rs\u0259, dan\u0131\u015fan, x\u00fcsusil\u0259 d\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tin t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n b\u0259hs ed\u0259rk\u0259n, \u00f6z hekay\u0259sind\u0259 daha \u00e7ox m\u0259na tap\u0131r. Ba\u015fqa s\u00f6zl\u0259, d\u0259st\u0259kl\u0259yici dinl\u0259m\u0259 n\u0259inki t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015fa burada v\u0259 indi e\u015fidildiyi hissini verir, h\u0259m d\u0259 sonradan emosiyalar\u0131n\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 k\u00f6m\u0259k edir.<\/p>\n

2.M\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259ni ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011fa \u00e7evirir: <\/strong>T\u0259r\u0259fda\u015fa hekay\u0259 m\u0259kan\u0131 t\u0259qdim etm\u0259kl\u0259, siz kimin haql\u0131 oldu\u011funu s\u00fcbut etmir, h\u0259r iki versiyan\u0131n birg\u0259 m\u00f6vcud ola bilm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259ni geni\u015fl\u0259ndirirsiniz. Bu, h\u0259m m\u00fcbahis\u0259ni bitirir, h\u0259m d\u0259 bir-birini anlama\u011f\u0131 d\u0259rinl\u0259\u015fdirir.<\/p>\n

3.S\u0259ssiz naraz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n k\u00f6k salmas\u0131n\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 al\u0131r:<\/strong> 2015-ci ild\u0259 apar\u0131lan t\u0259dqiqat g\u00f6st\u0259rib: insanlar \u015fikay\u0259tl\u0259rini basd\u0131rd\u0131qda, onlar tez-tez incik fikirl\u0259rind\u0259 ili\u015fib qal\u0131r, onlar\u0131 yenid\u0259n v\u0259 yenid\u0259n zehnind\u0259 d\u00f6nd\u0259rirdil\u0259r. Bu, problemi h\u0259ll etmir, \u0259ksin\u0259 passiv-aqressiv davran\u0131\u015f \u2013 m\u0259h\u0259l qoymamaq, susma, emosional uzaqla\u015fma \u2013 yarad\u0131r. N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 bu, t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015flar\u0131 n\u0259inki bir-birind\u0259n uzaqla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r, h\u0259m d\u0259 onlar\u0131 emosional c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n yorur (Qaynarinfo).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Amerikal\u0131 psixoloq Mark Travers m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin potensial\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7an bir \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan b\u0259hs edib. Mecra.az x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, o, “Forbes” yaz\u0131b. “T\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259li c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rl\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259y\u0259n psixoloqlar iddia edir ki, t\u0259r\u0259fda\u015flar\u0131n bir-biri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ed\u0259… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":49200,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[56],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-49199","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-maraqli"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/49199","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=49199"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/49199\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":49203,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/49199\/revisions\/49203"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/49200"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=49199"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=49199"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=49199"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}