{"id":39558,"date":"2025-02-07T22:44:04","date_gmt":"2025-02-07T18:44:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/?p=39558"},"modified":"2025-02-07T23:16:23","modified_gmt":"2025-02-07T19:16:23","slug":"kisil%c9%99r-t%c9%99bi%c9%99td%c9%99ki-ovcular-kimidir-seksoloqla-musahibe","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/?p=39558","title":{"rendered":"“Ki\u015fil\u0259r t\u0259bi\u0259td\u0259ki ov\u00e7ular kimidir” \u2013 Seksoloqla M\u00dcSAH\u0130B\u018f"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mecra.az <\/b><\/a>klinik psixoloq-seksoloq T\u0259hmasib Cavadzad\u0259dir lent.az-a m\u00fcsahib\u0259sini t\u0259qdim edir:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Qeyd:\u00a0<\/strong>T\u0259hmasib Cavadzad\u0259 Bak\u0131da, Ma\u015fta\u011fa k\u0259ndind\u0259 do\u011fulub. T\u0259hsilini \u0130randa, Tehran \u015f\u0259h\u0259rind\u0259 al\u0131b. 10 il \u0130randa ya\u015fad\u0131qdan sonra, 2012-ci ild\u0259 Az\u0259rbaycana qay\u0131d\u0131b v\u0259 f\u0259aliyy\u0259tini burada davam etdirib.<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0T\u0259hmasib b\u0259y, dem\u0259k olar ki h\u0259r m\u00fcsahib\u0259nizd\u0259 cinsi h\u0259yat\u0131nda problemi olanlar\u0131n bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn vaxt\u0131nda m\u00fcraci\u0259t etm\u0259li oldu\u011funu qeyd edirsiniz. B\u0259s bu \u201cvaxt\u201d\u0131 nec\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n ed\u0259 bil\u0259rik? Y\u0259ni, n\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015f verdikd\u0259 biz cinsi h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131zda problem oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259liyik?<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u018fg\u0259r insan cinsi h\u0259yat\u0131nda \u0259n az\u0131 2-3 d\u0259f\u0259 probleml\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015firs\u0259, hans\u0131 ki o, bunu \u00f6z\u00fc hiss edir, onda g\u0259r\u0259k seksoloqa m\u00fcraci\u0259t etsin. M\u00fcraci\u0259t etm\u0259dikd\u0259 n\u0259 ba\u015f verir? M\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 qal\u0131r, lakin seksd\u0259n qa\u00e7\u0131r. Art\u0131q bu yerd\u0259 \u201cba\u015f\u0131m a\u011fr\u0131y\u0131r\u201d, \u201ci\u015fd\u0259n yor\u011fun g\u0259lmi\u015f\u0259m\u201d, \u201chals\u0131zam\u201d kimi b\u0259han\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015flay\u0131r. B\u0259z\u0259n bu 1 il bel\u0259 davam ed\u0259 bilir. Bu halda h\u0259min insan\u0131 m\u00fcalic\u0259 etm\u0259k \u00e7\u0259tinl\u0259\u015fir. \u0130lk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 olan inam\u0131 \u0259ld\u0259n gedir, ikincisi is\u0259 yolda\u015f\u0131 ondan soyuyur. \u00c7ox vaxt bunu ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, bel\u0259 halda seansa t\u0259k \u00f6z\u00fc yox, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 da g\u0259lm\u0259lidir. \u00c7\u00fcnki b\u0259zi \u015feyl\u0259r getdikc\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259rir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, bu insan\u0131n problemini h\u0259ll edirik v\u0259 ev\u0259 gedir, amma yolda\u015f\u0131 onu \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 yax\u0131n buraxm\u0131r. S\u0259b\u0259b odur ki, art\u0131q o da u\u011fursuz seks c\u0259hdl\u0259rind\u0259n bezib v\u0259 soyuyub. Dey\u0259 bil\u0259rsiniz ki, seks t\u0259bii ehtiyacd\u0131rsa, ondan nec\u0259 vazke\u00e7m\u0259k olar? Bu halda seksi mast\u00fcrbasiya, fl\u00f6rt v\u0259 s. kimi \u015feyl\u0259rl\u0259 \u0259v\u0259z ed\u0259 bilirl\u0259rs\u0259, ondan vazke\u00e7m\u0259k m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

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–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u0130nsanlar f\u0259rqli oldu\u011fu kimi, onlar\u0131n h\u0259zl\u0259ri d\u0259 f\u0259rqlidir. \u00d6z f\u0259aliyy\u0259t t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259nizd\u0259n g\u00f6t\u00fcrs\u0259k, qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi yataqda n\u0259 ist\u0259yir?<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Bizim \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 \u00e7oxunun seksd\u0259n anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131, onu d\u0259rk etm\u0259diyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yaln\u0131z cinsi orqanlar\u0131na fokuslan\u0131rlar. \u018fslind\u0259, qad\u0131n bel\u0259 deyil. Qad\u0131nlar daha \u00e7ox yer\u0259 fokuslanmaq ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. \u018fg\u0259r bir m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 seksi yaln\u0131z cinsi orqanlar\u0131n toxunu\u015fu kimi q\u0259bul edirl\u0259rs\u0259, bu, t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259sizlikd\u0259n ir\u0259li g\u0259lir. \u00c7\u00fcnki bizim heyvanlardan \u00e7ox f\u0259rqimiz var, el\u0259 deyilmi? Heyvanlar\u0131n b\u0259zil\u0259rind\u0259 saf seks, y\u0259ni sevi\u015fm\u0259k var. Amma insanlar\u0131n \u00e7oxuna sevi\u015fm\u0259k anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 \u00e7atm\u0131r. B\u0259lk\u0259 \u0259n \u00e7oxu 1-2 d\u0259qiq\u0259 buna vaxt ay\u0131rarlar. 1-2 d\u0259qiq\u0259 sevi\u015fm\u0259k olar? Qad\u0131nla \u0259n az\u0131 5-10 d\u0259qiq\u0259 sevi\u015fm\u0259lis\u0259n ki, o \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 g\u0259lsin v\u0259 seks\u0259 haz\u0131r olsun. Ki\u015fi sad\u0259c\u0259 cinsi orqan\u0131n\u0131 daxil edib bo\u015falma\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Sonra is\u0259 bundan \u015fikay\u0259tl\u0259nirl\u0259r. Ki\u015finin erk\u0259n bo\u015falmas\u0131n\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bi onun seksin \u0259vv\u0259lind\u0259n etibar\u0259n sad\u0259c\u0259 bu bar\u0259d\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259yidir. Beyin d\u0259 onun bu ist\u0259yini yerin\u0259 yetirir. Ki\u015fil\u0259rin bu ist\u0259yi bilirsiz n\u0259y\u0259 b\u0259nz\u0259yir? Sanki h\u0259r c\u00fcr funksiyas\u0131 olan son model mobil telefon alm\u0131san, lakin onu sad\u0259c\u0259 z\u0259ngl\u0259\u015fm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn istifad\u0259 edirs\u0259n.<\/p>\n

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–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Bel\u0259 bir sual verim. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, evlis\u0259n, amma seks ist\u0259mirs\u0259n. Qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f is\u0259 s\u0259ni buna m\u0259cbur edir. Bu, t\u0259cav\u00fcz say\u0131l\u0131rm\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Maraql\u0131d\u0131r (g\u00fcl\u00fcr). Xeyr, bunu tam olaraq t\u0259cav\u00fcz adland\u0131ra bilm\u0259rik. Bel\u0259 deyim, seksin bir q\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 x\u0259tti var. Seksd\u0259 icra olunan prosesl\u0259rd\u0259n h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259f raz\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130kisind\u0259n biri n\u0259y\u0259s\u0259 raz\u0131 deyils\u0259, bu, seksd\u0259ki q\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 x\u0259tdir. Ya raz\u0131 salma\u011f\u0131, ya da d\u00f6zm\u0259yi bacarmal\u0131san. Seks ehtiyac\u0131 yem\u0259k kimi deyil. S\u0259hv etmir\u0259ms\u0259, limit 21 g\u00fcnd\u00fcr ki, insan yem\u0259ksiz qala bil\u0259r, bundan sonra art\u0131q v\u0259h\u015fiy\u0259 \u00e7evril\u0259r\u0259k insanlar\u0131 yem\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. Amma b\u0259d\u0259nin he\u00e7 bir problem yaratmadan iki ay sekssiz ya\u015faya bil\u0259rs\u0259n. Bu iki ay m\u00fcdd\u0259tind\u0259n sonra onun seks ist\u0259yi t\u0259cav\u00fcz say\u0131la bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Bir m\u00fcsahib\u0259nizd\u0259 qeyd etmisiniz ki, x\u0259yan\u0259t varsa, bu, iki t\u0259r\u0259fin d\u0259 g\u00fcnah\u0131d\u0131r. Y\u0259ni?<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0B\u0259li, bu h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 bel\u0259dir. Bir qad\u0131n dey\u0259 bil\u0259r ki, m\u0259n onun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259r \u015feyi etmi\u015f\u0259m, amma yen\u0259 d\u0259 o, m\u0259n\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. Qad\u0131n\u0131n burada g\u00fcnah\u0131 n\u0259dir? \u00c7\u00fcnki o, x\u0259yan\u0259tkar adamla ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurub. \u018fvv\u0259lc\u0259d\u0259n fikir verm\u0259lidir ki, bu insan\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fc-qa\u015f\u0131 dinc dayan\u0131r ya yox. Ola bil\u0259r ki, qad\u0131n bunu g\u00f6r\u00fcr, amma evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259n sonra ki\u015finin \u0259lini-qolunu, g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ba\u011flayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. O, d\u00fcz\u0259l\u0259n deyil, \u00e7\u00fcnki onun k\u00f6k\u00fc bel\u0259dir. Bu halda ki\u015finin davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 tamamil\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. \u201cM\u0259n bel\u0259y\u0259m\u201d deyib i\u015fin i\u00e7ind\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xmaq olmaz. T\u0259bii ki, ona haqq qazand\u0131rm\u0131r\u0131q. Amma qad\u0131nda da s\u0259hv var. \u00a0Bel\u0259 insanlar\u0131n he\u00e7 ail\u0259 qurma\u011f\u0131 bel\u0259 laz\u0131m deyil.
\nB\u0259z\u0259n m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259ki h\u0259r hans\u0131 problem d\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xara bil\u0259r. Biz ad\u0259t\u0259n, o\u011flanlar\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tind\u0259n dan\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131q. Ancaq q\u0131zlar da x\u0259yan\u0259t edirl\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki onlar h\u0259ddind\u0259n \u00e7ox diqq\u0259t, qay\u011f\u0131 ist\u0259yir. Ba\u015fqa bir ki\u015fi yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259diyi diqq\u0259ti ona g\u00f6st\u0259rdikd\u0259 qad\u0131n bu davran\u0131\u015fa qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131q ver\u0259c\u0259k. M\u0259qs\u0259d seks olmaya bil\u0259r. B\u0259y\u0259nm\u0259k, fl\u00f6rt etm\u0259k \u00f6z\u00fc bel\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t say\u0131l\u0131r.
\nKi\u015finin evli ola-ola x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259sinin m\u0259qs\u0259di s\u0131rf seksdir. Qad\u0131n\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tinin is\u0259 \u0259sas m\u0259qs\u0259di diqq\u0259tdir. Ki\u015fil\u0259r d\u0259 bunu \u00e7ox g\u00f6z\u0259l bilirl\u0259r, \u00e7\u00fcnki onlar t\u0259bi\u0259td\u0259 olan ov\u00e7ulard\u0131r. Ki\u015fi xan\u0131ma el\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015f\u0131r ki, onun he\u00e7 ruhu da incimir. El\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, ki\u015fi sad\u0259c\u0259 onunla maraqlan\u0131r. N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 aldan\u0131r v\u0259 ki\u015finin ist\u0259diyini ona t\u0259qdim edir. Bu da olur x\u0259yan\u0259t.<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Bir d\u0259 intim h\u0259yat\u0131nda feti\u015fi olanlar var. Onlar h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 n\u0259 kimi \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259r ya\u015fay\u0131rlar? \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, ortaq m\u0259xr\u0259c tapmaq n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr?<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, feti\u015f pis \u015feydir. B\u00fct\u00fcn feti\u015fl\u0259r anormal cinsi davran\u0131\u015flar siyah\u0131s\u0131ndad\u0131r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, qad\u0131n ki\u015fiy\u0259 deyir ki, m\u0259n seks zaman\u0131 s\u0259nin d\u0259ri \u0259lc\u0259k taxma\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259yir\u0259m. Y\u0259ni, bu boyda erk\u0259kliyinl\u0259 s\u0259n he\u00e7s\u0259n, qad\u0131n\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn ehtiras\u0131 bir \u0259lc\u0259y\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, bu problemdir. \u0130nsanlar \u00f6zl\u0259rini bu feti\u015fl\u0259r\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259\u015fdirirl\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki bunun beyin \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn f\u0259rqi yoxdur.<\/p>\n

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Beyin deyir ki, ist\u0259s\u0259n m\u0259n s\u0259ni bir bitkiy\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 bel\u0259 ehtirasland\u0131raram. \u00c7\u00fcnki seksi icra ed\u0259n beyin, onu formala\u015fd\u0131ran is\u0259 bizik. Biz seksd\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc n\u0259y\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259\u015fdirs\u0259k, beynimiz ona qar\u015f\u0131 bizi ehtirasland\u0131racaq. B\u0259zi insanlar olur, hans\u0131 ki masturbasiya ed\u0259r\u0259k \u00f6z ehtiyac\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6d\u0259yir v\u0259 h\u0259r d\u0259f\u0259 \u201cevl\u0259nm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r\u201d, \u201cn\u0259slimi art\u0131rmal\u0131yam\u201d deyir. G\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u0259n ki, art\u0131q g\u0259lib 45 ya\u015f\u0131na \u00e7at\u0131b ancaq h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259yib. Niy\u0259? \u00c7\u00fcnki masturbasiya h\u0259yat\u0131 onun beyni \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn xo\u015f g\u0259lir. Uzan\u0131b \u00fcz\u00fc \u00fcst\u0259 divana, s\u00fcrt\u00fcn\u0259r\u0259k masturbasiya edir. Sizc\u0259, bu insan n\u0259 vaxtsa evl\u0259ns\u0259, yolda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 normal seks ed\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259k? T\u0259bii ki, yox. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 ki beyin qad\u0131na yox, divana \u00f6yr\u0259\u015fib. H\u0259r birimiz sonradan \u00f6yr\u0259nirik ki, qad\u0131n ki\u015fini, ki\u015fi is\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u0259nd\u0259 ehtiraslanmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsanda instinkt yoxdur. \u0130nsanlar k\u0259\u015ff etm\u0259s\u0259l\u0259r, he\u00e7 n\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r. Ki\u015fiy\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259d\u0259n kims\u0259 qad\u0131nla evl\u0259n\u0259c\u0259yini dem\u0259s\u0259, \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu bunu bilm\u0259z, v\u0259 ya \u0259ksin\u0259. Beyin\u0259 n\u0259yi \u00f6yr\u0259\u015fdirirs\u0259ns\u0259, onu icra edirs\u0259n. U\u015faqlar g\u00f6r\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi, ata v\u0259 ana, y\u0259ni qar\u015f\u0131 cinsl\u0259r bir yerd\u0259dir. Bu, zamanla formala\u015f\u0131r, yoxsa ki bunlar\u0131 d\u0259rk ed\u0259r\u0259k d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lmirik.<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0El\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259t masturbasiyaya g\u0259lmi\u015fk\u0259n, indiki g\u0259ncl\u0259r, h\u0259tta yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259r aras\u0131nda masturbasiya etm\u0259y\u0259n, bundan \u0259lav\u0259 porno izl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259nini tapmaq \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tindir. Bu, onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r laz\u0131ml\u0131d\u0131r? Pornoya baxmaq n\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 yol a\u00e7a bil\u0259r?<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Q\u0131z v\u0259 ya o\u011flan olmas\u0131ndan as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq bir yeniyetm\u0259 ya da g\u0259nc \u0259g\u0259r seks ed\u0259 bilmirs\u0259, b\u0259s n\u0259 etm\u0259lidir? T\u0259bii ki, masturbasiya etm\u0259lidir. Amma bunu d\u00fczg\u00fcn formada h\u0259yata ke\u00e7irm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. H\u0259r g\u00fcn v\u0259 ya g\u00fcnd\u0259 bir ne\u00e7\u0259 d\u0259f\u0259 masturbasiya etm\u0259k ziyand\u0131r. Sonra da deyirl\u0259r ki, filank\u0259s evl\u0259nib, amma u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olmur, toxumalar\u0131n\u0131n say\u0131 azd\u0131r v\u0259 ya h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tsizdir. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, olar. Bir adam g\u00fcnd\u0259 be\u015f d\u0259f\u0259 masturbasiya ed\u0259nd\u0259 toxumda h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t qalmaz da.
\nPornoya g\u0259ldikd\u0259 is\u0259 bu sad\u0259c\u0259 fantastik bir film\u0259 ox\u015fay\u0131r. Amma porno daha \u00e7ox maraq dair\u0259mizd\u0259dir. \u00c7\u00fcnki i\u00e7ind\u0259 h\u0259zz var. Y\u0259ni, h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir \u015fey dig\u0259ri il\u0259 \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259\u015fir. Bu da sonradan insanda m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259r yarada bil\u0259r. B\u0259zi o\u011flanlar pornodak\u0131 o\u011flanlar\u0131 super q\u0259hr\u0259man bilirl\u0259r. H\u0259min o \u201cq\u0259hr\u0259man\u201d\u0131n etdikl\u0259rini \u00f6z\u00fc ed\u0259 bilm\u0259diyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00f6zg\u00fcv\u0259ni a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr v\u0259 bu, onu depressiyaya sal\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki o ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcr ki, pornoda izl\u0259diyi o \u201cq\u0259hr\u0259man\u201d \u0259slind\u0259 iyn\u0259 vasit\u0259sil\u0259 seks edir. B\u0259zil\u0259ri d\u0259 bunu ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr, amma yen\u0259 d\u0259 inan\u0131r. Nec\u0259 ki qorxu filmin\u0259 baxd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, orada ya\u015fananlar\u0131n ger\u00e7\u0259k olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, yaradan f\u0131\u015fq\u0131ran mayenin \u0259slind\u0259 qan olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bildiyimiz halda yen\u0259 d\u0259 qorxuruq, bu da el\u0259.
\n\u018fg\u0259r pornoya sad\u0259c\u0259 bir kino kimi, y\u0259ni he\u00e7 n\u0259 etm\u0259d\u0259n baxsaq, bir problem yoxdur. Amma onu \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259\u015fdirdikd\u0259, bu o dem\u0259kdir ki, masturbasiya il\u0259 pornonu birl\u0259\u015fdirdikd\u0259 ziyanl\u0131 bir \u015fey\u0259 \u00e7evrilir.<\/p>\n

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–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Dediniz ki, insanda instinkt yoxdur. B\u0259s niy\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r (ham\u0131s\u0131na aid deyil) yolda ged\u0259nd\u0259 v\u0259 ya h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir yerd\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131q-sa\u00e7\u0131q geyin\u0259n qad\u0131n g\u00f6rd\u00fckd\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259rini onun m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n b\u00f6lg\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 zill\u0259yir? Bunu n\u0259yl\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259l\u0259ndirm\u0259k olar?<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Ki\u015fil\u0259r sad\u0259c\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn t\u0259hrikedici zona yarad\u0131blar. Onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn t\u0259hrikedici zona qad\u0131nlar\u0131n sin\u0259si v\u0259 arxa hiss\u0259sidir. Amma ki\u015fil\u0259r sad\u0259c\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131q-sa\u00e7\u0131q geyinm\u0259yin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 ehtiraslanm\u0131r. Onlar\u0131n \u00e7oxu hicabl\u0131 bir xan\u0131m\u0131 bel\u0259 g\u00f6z\u00fcyl\u0259 \u201cskan\u201d edib, ona qar\u015f\u0131 ehtiraslana bil\u0259rl\u0259r. B\u0259zi ki\u015fil\u0259rin qurulu\u015fu bel\u0259dir, hans\u0131 ki onlar x\u0259st\u0259 ruha sahibdir. Sa\u011flam ruha sahib olan ki\u015fini qad\u0131n\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131q v\u0259 ya qapal\u0131 geyinm\u0259si maraqland\u0131rm\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnki onun fikri-zikri sad\u0259c\u0259 cinsi h\u0259yat deyil.
\n\u018fslind\u0259 bu, qad\u0131nlarda da var. Ki\u015fil\u0259rin cinsi orqan\u0131, arxa hiss\u0259si, qolunun dirs\u0259kd\u0259n bil\u0259y\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r olan hiss\u0259si v\u0259 \u00e7iyinl\u0259ri qad\u0131nlar\u0131n t\u0259hrikedici zonas\u0131d\u0131r. T\u0259bii ki, onlar aras\u0131nda da sa\u011flam v\u0259 x\u0259st\u0259 ruhlu olanlar var.<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Evli insanlardan dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131q, ist\u0259yir\u0259m biraz da subaylardan dan\u0131\u015faq. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, bug\u00fcnk\u00fc g\u00fcnd\u0259 subaylar\u0131n ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131na, x\u00fcsusil\u0259 toy gec\u0259sin\u0259 haz\u0131r olmamas\u0131 ciddi probleml\u0259r\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n bu problemi a\u015fa bilm\u0259m\u0259sin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b n\u0259dir?<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Onlar\u0131n toy gec\u0259sin\u0259 haz\u0131r olmamalar\u0131 ya t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259sizlikd\u0259n, ya da m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259ni g\u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259 \u00e7ox b\u00f6y\u00fctm\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n ir\u0259li g\u0259lir. B\u0259zi ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bunlar\u0131n he\u00e7 bir \u00f6n\u0259mi yoxdur, amma b\u0259zil\u0259rind\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259t\u0259 xalalar, bibil\u0259r, ba\u015fqa qohumlar qo\u015fulur v\u0259 m\u0259cbur edirl\u0259r ki, \u201cpar\u00e7an\u0131 biz\u0259 d\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259lis\u0259n\u201d. B\u0259s par\u00e7adak\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259ni kim ortaya qoymal\u0131d\u0131r? O\u011flan. T\u0259bii ki, b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar ona stress y\u00fckl\u0259yir. Ham\u0131n\u0131n psixologiyas\u0131 eyni g\u00fcc\u0259 malik deyil. Biz he\u00e7 kimi buna g\u00f6r\u0259 q\u0131naya bilm\u0259rik. O zaman q\u0131naya bil\u0259rik ki, o psixologiyas\u0131n\u0131n z\u0259if oldu\u011funu, bu kimi basq\u0131lara d\u00f6zm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259yini bildiyi halda, onu g\u00fccl\u0259ndirm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn add\u0131m atm\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki psixoloqa getm\u0259y\u0259 utan\u0131rlar.
\nQ\u0131zlarda da problem ola bil\u0259r. Qorxa, o\u011flan\u0131 toy gec\u0259si \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 yax\u0131n buraxmaya bil\u0259rl\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki ona da xalas\u0131, bibisi \u00f6yr\u0259dib ki, bu d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 a\u011fr\u0131l\u0131 bir prosesdir. Bu da ona g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r ki, toy gec\u0259si q\u0131zlar\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259tind\u0259 vaginizm yaran\u0131r. Y\u0259ni q\u0131z\u0131n cinsi orqan\u0131 g\u0259rginlikd\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc qapad\u0131r v\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131lm\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Xarici \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 cinsi t\u0259rbiy\u0259 deyil\u0259n bir anlay\u0131\u015f var. Niy\u0259 Az\u0259rbaycanda g\u0259ncl\u0259r\u0259 bu t\u0259rbiy\u0259 a\u015f\u0131lanm\u0131r?<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, xaricd\u0259 bir \u00e7ox standartlar var ki, Az\u0259rbaycanda yoxdur. Xarici \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 olan standartlar bizd\u0259 d\u0259 olsayd\u0131, indikind\u0259n \u00e7ox f\u0259rqli olard\u0131. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, adi Skandinaviya t\u00fcrm\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 n\u0259z\u0259r yetirs\u0259k g\u00f6r\u0259rik ki, bizim \u00e7ox istirah\u0259t m\u0259rk\u0259zimizd\u0259n daha yax\u015f\u0131 \u015f\u0259raiti var. Orada m\u0259hbuslar kef edirl\u0259r, t\u0259k f\u0259rq ondan ibar\u0259tdir ki, \u00e7\u00f6l\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xa bilmirl\u0259r. Y\u0259ni, \u0259slin\u0259 qalsa, xarici \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 olan \u00e7ox \u015fey bizd\u0259 yoxdur. B\u0259s bizd\u0259 n\u0259 var? \u0130ctimai q\u0131naq var. H\u0259r \u015feyi ictimai q\u0131naqla h\u0259ll etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Bir hadis\u0259 olan kimi ham\u0131 bir a\u011f\u0131zdan y\u0131x\u0131b- s\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fcrl\u0259r. Ham\u0131 se\u00e7kil\u0259rd\u0259, d\u00f6vl\u0259t t\u0259dbirl\u0259rind\u0259 v\u0259 s. i\u015ftirak etm\u0259lidir. Ham\u0131 y\u0131x\u0131lana t\u0259pik vurmal\u0131 deyil. Az\u0259rbaycanda qlobal d\u0259yi\u015fiklik olmasa, cinsi m\u00f6vzularda he\u00e7 vaxt d\u0259yi\u015fiklik g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259yin. \u00c7\u00fcnki insanlar\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 t\u0259rzi d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259lidir.
\n\u00d6z t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259md\u0259n bir misal g\u0259tirim. Dem\u0259li, m\u0259n \u00f6z sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259 hesablar\u0131mda bu m\u00f6vzularda payla\u015f\u0131mlar edir\u0259m. Bir d\u0259f\u0259 penisin normal uzunlu\u011funun n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r olmas\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 bir payla\u015f\u0131m etmi\u015f\u0259m, hans\u0131 ki bir xan\u0131m \u015f\u0259rh b\u00f6lm\u0259sind\u0259 yaz\u0131b ki, \u0259rimin penisinin uzunlu\u011fu 10 ne\u00e7\u0259dir (d\u0259qiq r\u0259q\u0259m yad\u0131mda deyil). Bu n\u0259dir ax\u0131? Kim\u0259 laz\u0131md\u0131r, s\u0259nin \u0259rinin cinsi orqan\u0131 ne\u00e7\u0259 santimetrdir? Sad\u0259c\u0259 b\u0259z\u0259n insanlar ist\u0259yirl\u0259r ki, diqq\u0259t c\u0259lb etsinl\u0259r v\u0259 el\u0259 bilirl\u0259r ki, profild\u0259 \u00f6z adlar\u0131n\u0131 qeyd etm\u0259dikl\u0259ri zaman he\u00e7 kim onlar\u0131 tapa bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k.<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0B\u0259s, el\u0259 bir \u015fey olub ki, etdiyiniz payla\u015f\u0131ma bir \u015f\u0259rh yaz\u0131blar v\u0259 bu sizin yadda\u015f\u0131n\u0131za h\u0259kk olunub?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0B\u0259li… Bir \u015f\u0259rh var idi, oxuyanda \u00e7ox g\u00fclm\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcm. Dem\u0259li, Tiktok platformas\u0131nda qad\u0131n orqazm\u0131n\u0131n nec\u0259 rahat ola bil\u0259c\u0259yi bar\u0259d\u0259 bir video payla\u015fm\u0131\u015fd\u0131m. Bir o\u011flan da m\u0259nim haqq\u0131mda bel\u0259 bir \u015f\u0259rh yaz\u0131b: \u201cQaqa\u015f qad\u0131nlardan el\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131r ki, sanki \u00f6z\u00fc minimum 5 il qad\u0131n olub\u201d.<\/p>\n

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\u018fslind\u0259, bu \u015f\u0259rhi yazan\u0131n yumor hissi \u00e7ox xo\u015fuma g\u0259lmi\u015fdi v\u0259 h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 yad\u0131ma d\u00fc\u015f\u0259nd\u0259 buna g\u00fcl\u00fcr\u0259m. M\u0259n h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 deyir\u0259m ki, bizim \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 h\u0259r k\u0259s \u201cKVN\u015fik\u201ddir, birc\u0259 \u201cKVN-\u015fik\u201dl\u0259rd\u0259n ba\u015fqa (g\u00fcl\u00fcr).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Mecra.az klinik psixoloq-seksoloq T\u0259hmasib Cavadzad\u0259dir lent.az-a m\u00fcsahib\u0259sini t\u0259qdim edir: Qeyd:\u00a0T\u0259hmasib Cavadzad\u0259 Bak\u0131da, Ma\u015fta\u011fa k\u0259ndind\u0259 do\u011fulub. T\u0259hsilini \u0130randa, Tehran \u015f\u0259h\u0259rind\u0259 al\u0131b. 10 il \u0130randa ya\u015fad\u0131qdan sonra, 2012-ci ild\u0259 Az\u0259rbaycana qay\u0131d\u0131b v\u0259… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":39561,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-39558","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-musahib"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39558","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=39558"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39558\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":39560,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39558\/revisions\/39560"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/39561"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=39558"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=39558"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=39558"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}