{"id":19320,"date":"2023-06-01T12:59:23","date_gmt":"2023-06-01T08:59:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/?p=19320"},"modified":"2023-06-01T13:04:14","modified_gmt":"2023-06-01T09:04:14","slug":"qizlarimiz-niy%c9%99-evd%c9%99n-qacir-vasif-%c9%99lihuseyn-yazir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mecra.az\/?p=19320","title":{"rendered":"Q\u0131zlar\u0131m\u0131z niy\u0259 evd\u0259n qa\u00e7\u0131r? &#8211; Vasif \u018flih\u00fcseyn yaz\u0131r&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>\u018fvv\u0259la onu dey\u0259 bil\u0259r\u0259m ki, son ill\u0259r valideynl\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n b\u00f6lg\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 q\u0131zlar\u0131n t\u0259hsil almas\u0131na, s\u0259n\u0259t, pe\u015f\u0259 sahibl\u0259ri olmalar\u0131na b\u00f6y\u00fck \u00f6n\u0259m verilir. Y\u0259ni bu istiqam\u0259td\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259lki ill\u0259r\u0259 baxanda ir\u0259lil\u0259yi\u015f var. Onu da bildirib ki, u\u015faqlar\u0131na ali t\u0259hsil ver\u0259n valideynl\u0259r d\u0259 onu cehiz kimi verirl\u0259r. Y\u0259ni sabah q\u0131z\u0131 ail\u0259 quranda dey\u0259c\u0259k ki, q\u0131z\u0131m\u0131n diplomu var. Problem yoxdu, t\u0259ki t\u0259hsil versinl\u0259r.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Amma q\u0131zlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ail\u0259 qurma\u011fa t\u0259l\u0259sdir\u0259n valideynl\u0259r d\u0259 az deyil. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, q\u0131zlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ail\u0259 qurmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b b\u0259z\u0259n bil\u0259r\u0259kd\u0259n, b\u0259z\u0259n d\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259r\u0259kd\u0259n valideynl\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n bu c\u00fcr informasiyalar\u0131n onlara \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fclm\u0259sidir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, sinif yolda\u015f\u0131na el\u00e7i g\u0259libl\u0259r, onu toyda g\u00f6r\u00fcb b\u0259y\u0259nibl\u0259r, k\u0259ndd\u0259 filankl\u0259sin q\u0131z\u0131 filank\u0259sin o\u011fluna qo\u015fulub qa\u00e7\u0131b. \u00d6z\u00fcm d\u0259 b\u00f6lg\u0259d\u0259n oldu\u011fum \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m ail\u0259l\u0259r var ki, ax\u015fama kimi bu c\u00fcr informasiyalar\u0131n i\u00e7ind\u0259dirl\u0259r. H\u0259tta buna g\u00f6r\u0259 qad\u0131nlar bir-birin\u0259 \u015fok x\u0259b\u0259r dey\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini bildirib h\u0259diyy\u0259 d\u0259 ist\u0259yirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n<p>Amma bu g\u00fcn q\u0131z\u0131na t\u0259hsil verm\u0259y\u0259 maddi imkan\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dey\u0259n valideyn onu \u0259r\u0259 ver\u0259nd\u0259 10 min manatl\u0131q cehiz al\u0131r, kredit g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr. \u018fslind\u0259 o\u011flanlardan \u00e7ox q\u0131zlar\u0131n t\u0259hsil almas\u0131 daha vacibdir. \u00c7\u00fcnki ki\u015fi gedib da\u015f da da\u015f\u0131yacaq \u00f6vladlar\u0131na baxacaq. Lakin qad\u0131n \u0259lind\u0259 s\u0259n\u0259ti olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259r \u00e7\u0259kir.<\/p>\n<p>Bizd\u0259 bel\u0259 bir tendenasiya var. Valideyn deyir ki, \u00f6vlad\u0131m\u0131 yerb\u0259yer edim v\u0259 sonra ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131 qoyub rahat \u00f6l\u0259r\u0259m. Yoxsa sabah \u00f6l\u0259r\u0259m toyunu g\u00f6rm\u0259r\u0259m. Bax\u0131rsan ki, adam\u0131n \u00f6lm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn el\u0259 bir \u00f6l\u00fcmc\u00fcl x\u0259st\u0259liyi bel\u0259 yoxdur, amma harasa t\u0259l\u0259sir. Bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t \u00f6nc\u0259 Sabun\u00e7u rayonunda 14 ya\u015fl\u0131 q\u0131z\u0131n 37 ya\u015fl\u0131 dul ki\u015fiy\u0259 ni\u015fanlanmas\u0131 ortaya \u00e7\u0131xd\u0131. M\u0259tbuat bu haqda yazd\u0131. Q\u0131z m\u00fcsahib\u0259si zaman\u0131 dedi ki, \u201ct\u0259hsil almaq ist\u0259yir\u0259m\u201d. Anas\u0131 is\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcn n\u0259 deyir: \u201c\u00d6z\u00fcn bil, s\u0259ni \u0259r\u0259 verirdim ki, sabah m\u0259n ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131 qoyub \u00f6l\u0259nd\u0259 ortal\u0131qda qalmayasan. \u0130ndi ki, ist\u0259mirs\u0259n, \u00f6z\u00fcn bil\u0259rs\u0259n\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Ard\u0131nca Tovuzda 13 ya\u015fl\u0131 q\u0131z sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259d\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7 u\u015faql\u0131 44 ya\u015fl\u0131 ki\u015fiy\u0259 qo\u015fulub qa\u00e7d\u0131. Q\u0131z\u0131n atas\u0131 deyir ki, \u201cq\u0131z\u0131m bald\u0131z\u0131mla dan\u0131\u015f\u0131b, deyib ki, xo\u015fb\u0259xt\u0259m, m\u0259nd\u0259n polis\u0259 \u015fikay\u0259t vers\u0259niz, intihar ed\u0259c\u0259m\u201d. O yanda da 44 ya\u015fl\u0131 ki\u015finin h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7 u\u015faqla ortal\u0131qda qald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 deyir. Bir s\u00f6zl\u0259, al\u0259m d\u0259yib bir-birin\u0259.<\/p>\n<p>Y\u0259ni c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 \u0259ks\u0259r adamlar pul qazanmaq, varlanmaq ist\u0259yir, amma he\u00e7 kim maarifl\u0259nm\u0259k, m\u0259d\u0259ni olmaq niyy\u0259tind\u0259 deyil. Bu g\u00fcn c\u0259miyy\u0259ti narahat ed\u0259n probleml\u0259rd\u0259n biri d\u0259 valideynl\u0259rin q\u0131z u\u015faqlar\u0131 ist\u0259m\u0259m\u0259sidir.<\/p>\n<p>Hesab edir\u0259m ki, ail\u0259sind\u0259 q\u0131z u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n valideyn bu travman\u0131 bac\u0131s\u0131nda, yax\u0131n\u0131nda, c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f adamd\u0131r. O, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, q\u0131z\u0131m olsa, kimins\u0259 evin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u0259c\u0259k, onu yol verm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r, m\u0259n d\u0259 kimd\u0259ns\u0259 as\u0131l\u0131 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u0259c\u0259m. \u0130nsanlar bir az da tabe\u00e7ilikd\u0259n qa\u00e7maq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ail\u0259d\u0259 q\u0131z u\u015faqlar\u0131 ist\u0259mir. Nec\u0259 ki, bir m\u0259s\u0259ld\u0259 deyildiyi kimi \u201co\u011flan evi alana kimi, q\u0131z evi is\u0259 \u00f6l\u0259n\u0259 kimi y\u0131x\u0131l\u0131r\u201d. Y\u0259ni he\u00e7 kim y\u0131x\u0131lmaq ist\u0259mir.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130\u015fiml\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 h\u0259r ay b\u00f6lg\u0259d\u0259 oluram. M\u00fc\u011f\u0259nni Af\u0259t F\u0259rmanq\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n ifas\u0131nda \u0130mad\u0259ddin N\u0259siminin \u201cS\u0131\u011fmazam\u201d q\u0259z\u0259lin\u0259 b\u0259st\u0259l\u0259nmi\u015f mahn\u0131 bir m\u00fcdd\u0259r \u00f6nc\u0259 geni\u015f yay\u0131lm\u0131\u015fd\u0131. K\u0259nd yerind\u0259 bu mahn\u0131ya el\u0259 oynay\u0131rd\u0131lar ki, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 N\u0259siminin d\u0259risini soyanda o, can\u0131nda bu c\u00fcr \u015fidd\u0259tli a\u011fr\u0131 hiss etm\u0259mi\u015fdi. Bunu oynayan kim idi? Q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 \u0259r\u0259 verm\u0259y\u0259 haz\u0131rla\u015fan qad\u0131nlar v\u0259 onlar\u0131n q\u0131zlar\u0131\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u018fvv\u0259la onu dey\u0259 bil\u0259r\u0259m ki, son ill\u0259r valideynl\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n b\u00f6lg\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 q\u0131zlar\u0131n t\u0259hsil almas\u0131na, s\u0259n\u0259t, pe\u015f\u0259 sahibl\u0259ri olmalar\u0131na b\u00f6y\u00fck \u00f6n\u0259m verilir. Y\u0259ni bu istiqam\u0259td\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259lki ill\u0259r\u0259 baxanda ir\u0259lil\u0259yi\u015f var. 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